I used to listen stories about Manuel’s grandma when I was in University. We knew she was a famous artist mentored by another famous artist, but what we liked more was what he used to say about her. There was this myth around her. We shared this pleasure about her funny sayings (I still tell them!)— thus beginning my admiration for her.
With time, I ended up getting to know more about the family.You just needed to get close to one relative to feel the grandma’s vibe in all of them. I always admired how freely they were raised and I have no doubt his grandma has a great impact on that . They are a generation of light souls, open to their mistakes and ahead of their time.
I don’t know how, but I get this understanding from them this possibility to be whatever you want without any charge. As parents, we carry this certainty we want our kids to be happy. But our concept of happiness most of the times is so full of bias, we end up passing over a desire that doesn’t belong to them. It’s a concept of happiness they didn’t want. Therefore, they push this impossible pressure on themselves without an idea where it comes from.
You can throw me in the internet abyss for this, but I need to say it: motherhood/ fatherhood are very selfish life experiences. Unconsciously we don’t want our kids to fail, because it means we would fail too. We also love when people say they’re beautiful and smart because they came from us, and this makes us automatically beautiful and smart too.
I felt Manuel’s grandma freed generations of her family from this type of cycle. I can be wrong, but I can see they had the chance to be free from future mistakes. She opened the door for all attempts and possibilities to be necessary. This is so liberating that I stick to them just to keep learning.
Maria Helena Andrés (Manuel’s grandma) is one of the most important Brazilian artists alive. What I like the most about her work is the simplicity and balance; it’s a very thoughtful thing to have in both art and life Maybe this ability can explain the subject of the post… the documentary below was launched recently and tells about her life and work. It is 26 minutes long. But if you get time, it’s worth the watch!